It’s a complicated and a much neglected subject because.
1. This matter is not as simple and clearly distinguishable for sisters as it is for brothers
2. Rarely do we ever hear any Shariah explanation for sisters, in detail.
3. Shyness prevents sisters from learning the ruling and hence taharat
Wet dreams are as normal for women as they are for men.
▪ Although, the frequency may be lower compared to men, nonetheless, the occurrence of wet dreams among women does not indicate any abnormality.
▪ Umm Salamah said: “Umm Sulaym came to the Messenger of Allah, ﷺ and said
‘O Messenger of Allah, Allah is not too shy to tell us the truth. Does a woman have to do ghusl if she has a wet dream?’
The Prophet ﷺ said: ‘Yes, if she sees water (a discharge).’
Umm Salamah covered her face and said, ‘O Messenger of Allah, can a woman have an erotic dream?’
He said, ‘Yes, may your hands be rubbed with dust. How else would her child resemble her?’… (Bukhari)
▪ Therefore, if a girl/woman sees a wet dream, it does not mean that she is sexually perverted, lewd or immodest in any sense.
It is out of her control, especially for younger girls who may be experiencing many hormonal changes in their bodies.
▪In fact, the Shariah itself recognizes wet dreams as a sign of puberty.
*“And when the children among you come to puberty “(al-hilm) [al-Noor 24:59]
▪ The same term, “al-hilm,” is used for both puberty and wet dreams, marking wet dreams an indication of puberty.
▪ Allah azzawajal created wet dreams as an outlet for men and women to release their sexual energy.
It happens as a result of human nature which Allah azzawajal has created Himself and no blame can be put on a person.
▪ Aisha (ra) said: The Messenger of Allaah ﷺ was asked:
1. About a man who notices some wetness but does not remember having a wet dream.
He said, “He should do ghusl.”
2. About a man who thinks that he had an erotic dream but does not see any wetness.
He said, “He does not have to do ghusl.”
Umm Salamah said, “O Messenger of Allah, does a woman have to do ghusl if she sees something like that?”
He said, “Yes, women are the twin halves of men.”
(Tirmidhi, Abu Dawood)
Encourage mothers to inform and educate their daughters about such dreams.
A mother’s education is sincere, pure, and free of any vulgarity.
A Muslim mother can/should always point out the Islamic recognition of the normality of our body functions and the Shariah rulings about it.