By Abdulbasit Abdusalam

FRIENDSHIP is a relationship of mutual affections between people. It is a stronger form of interpersonal bond.
FRIENDSHIP is what everybody needs in this life. From my own view, it is virtually impossible for someone to stay without a companion.

Friendship is an important basis in one’s life. Then it worth a proper and a wise choice.

Most students are where they are now – either good or bad status as a result of the friend they move with. Thus, it creates a semblance with
a popular adage “show me your Friend and I tell you who you are.”

When you fail in the aspect of choosing a right company, your aim may be distorted. Choosing a friend is delicate and without it our personality is not complete. We need serious prayers to Our Maker to find us the best companion and also make sincere consultation.

Nevertheless, you need to be moderate in your friendship and keep reasonable expectations from each other.

One of the regrets on the Day of Judgment is for befriending a person who diverted you from your goal in life, a person who swerved you
from the main purpose you were created for.

ALLAH said in one of His puissant words:

“Close friends, that Day, will be enemies to each
other, except for the righteous “… (Qur’an 43 verse 67)

He also said”

” Oh, woe to me! I wish I had not taken that one as a friend. He led me away from the remembrance after it had come to me. And ever is Satan, to man, a deserter. “… (Qur’an 25 verse 28-29).

Types of friends

Sickness – This category of friends are not needed in our life because it’s clear that Sickness is not a true friend of Human and
Nobody need friends like that.

Medicine – this category of friends are needed sometimes to help in achieving fitness in our endeavours.

Nourishment – We all need to nourish our soul/body/life, in this case we need this category of friends always, they are necessary in
our life, They are unique personality aiming to achieve success in life and the hereafter, You need to move with this kind of friends at
all cost.

Importance of friendship

Friends are the best partner we can ever have. Once you have a right friend. You’ve found a comforter, a motivator, a beloved companion that would keep you moving despite the obstacles and jumping hurdles
irrespective of the height.

Friends have a lot of Benefits for their beloved and only a good friend can possess the importance below:

» They Push you to move when you’re stagnant.

» They identify your weakness and repair it.

» They motivate you to be ahead of your mates.

» They remind you of your main Purpose in life.

» They never leave you on your own, They ensure you’re always guided.

» They smoothen your relationship with God.

» They help you in managing your time.

Characteristics of a bad friend

A bad friend is not needed by anyone aiming to be at the peak of success. We all need to watch out because they are more in town these
days. It is beyond fact that any sheep that flocks around with a dog would always eat poo.

Among the traits of bad companions are:

¤ They lead you away from remembrance of Allah.

¤ They will deviate you from the right path, the path to do good deeds and the path to excel.

¤ They affect your ability to differentiate between lawful and unlawful things.

¤ They will pollute your mind and thought.

The question might arise that are these people meant to be abandoned ?

Of course NO, but you don’t need to critically interact with them, you don’t need to really associate yourself with them. Keep on advising
them and guiding them BUT don’t ever affiliate or blend with them; they are always contagious.

Implications of bad friendship

¤ Distortion of your faith.

¤ Distract you from remembering Allah.

¤ Urge you to sinful act.

¤ Waste you time.

¤ Make you lose focus.

¤ Forget you when you’re out of sight.

¤ Distance you from Allah.

¤ Cause you to regret in this life and hereafter

Beware of bad friends they are distractions to you and the shaytaan you have in your midst.


Assess your Friends

• What do we talk about when we are together ?
Is it about Allah, Academics, The sahaba, Islaam or Other People’s gist ?

• What do we do together ?
Is it obeying Allah’s commandments, Sunnah, study together, Follow self desires ?

• Do you help each other in righteousness or evil?

• Do you waste your time together or manage it?

• Do you love each other for material benefit or for Allah’s sake.

Among those that Allah will shade on the day of judgment when there won’t be any shade except His, are two friends that love themselves
because of Allah on it they meet and on it they depart.

The prophet of Islam (PBUH) enjoins us to make dua’ to for a good friend:

” O Allah!, I ask you for love and the love of whoever loves you….. ”

Remember, you’d regret on the Day of Resurrection if you choose a bad friend

Choose a righteous friend and your success is guaranteed.

A true friend is the greatest of all blessings, and that which we take the least care of all to acquire.

“It takes a minute to find a special friend, an hour to appreciate them, a day to love them but an entire life to forget them.”

Written by: Abdulbasit Abdusalam (Mujjahid)
Undergraduate, University of Lagos, Department of Geosciences.

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