Dating at the wrong time will always lead you to making mistakes. Going into relationship when you are not ready for marriage is like going for a job which you don’t have the requisite qualification for. So you end up making mistakes, causing the company losses. No matter how beautiful or lovely you are, the company has no choice than to lay you off because you lack what they need.
A relationship is supposed to make your life better, but it’s rather unfortunate that many relationship that young people find themselves in today makes their love worse. It’s a lie to think you cannot love, because love is in our DNA, the one who created us put it there. Everyone on earth is capable of loving at the right time with the right conditions.
Many people just rush into relationship to look for love like it is a scarce commodity, meanwhile it’s not so. The period between being single, not ready for marriage and when you are ready for marriage, is a time you need to love yourself, not to look for someone to love you.
Learn how to respect yourself, honour yourself, protect yourself and above all care for yourself. If it will take you education; reading, schooling, etc to achieve these things, dedicate yourself to doing that. It is like sowing into yourself, you will reap a bountiful harvest in the future.
Who you settle down with mainly depends on who you are. If your eyes are good, you won’t fall in a gutter. So take care of your eyes and your eyes will take care of your steps. Once you are able to do that, you are ready to welcome someone else into your life. A partner is someone to share with and not someone to depend on.
Once you care and love yourself, you can’t treat yourself bad, ignore yourself, abuse yourself. Which means you can treat your partner same or expect no one to treat you less than you deserve or do to yourself.
It is very true you want to get married one day, but the truth is, when you are not ready, it means you don’t have the qualification or requirement so you end up not succeeding.
The foundation of every building is a very important part of the building; it needs to be done right with the right materials. Imagine you start a house on a mistake, with the wrong materials for the foundation, no matter how well you build on such foundation, it will finally come down during a storm. Same with dating.
If you love yourself that much, you will not jeopardize your future. To love is to care, not to romance. Take care of yourself today and don’t go out looking for someone to romance with in the name of love.
Any person who cannot be patient with you or understand you is not ready for marriage but will rush you into a relationship doesn’t love you. It is their duty to find their happiness but don’t allow them to ruin yours because they can’t find theirs. Such a person can’t love you or make you happy for they are empty and no one can pour from an empty cup.
Always go to bed with the dreams of your future and wake up with plans of how to become. Don’t go to bed with the aim to dream of a boy or girl knowing you are not ready for marriage; you might wake up with pains.
